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August 2013 - Lifestyle Integrity

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29

Aug

Devin Martin Teams up with Men’s Health to Grow Your Game


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Any one here read Men’s Health? Did you check out the September issue yet? Notice any familiar faces? Yup, that’s me on page 3.

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This issue marks the beginning of the “Grow Your Game” campaign presented by Men’s Health and Rogaine. There will be updates in the magazine over the coming months as well as reams of content on a Men’s Health microsite, MHGrowYourGame.com.

What is “Grow Your Game”? You can think of it a bit like a reality show. 5 guys experiencing hair loss have been selected to try Rogaine while also getting coached to unlock their full potential. Rogaine teamed up with Men’s Health and asked them for a panel of expert coaches to work with the guys in many aspects of their life. Each guy will receive one on one coaching sessions with all 4 coaches. That includes a health/fitness coach, a relationship coach and a style coach. I was brought in as the life and career coach. These guys have signed on for a year of radical growth and transformation.

This is a really exciting opportunity for me. Each of these guys has an amazing story and a ton of latent potential waiting to be tapped. Lucky for me, each has a unique and interesting situation they are facing with their career as well as an eagerness to ask some of the big questions about how they want to live their life. I have already started working with them and am really enjoying getting to know each one.

The website will be full of information about the guys, the coaching they are receiving, their progress, how this all impacts their confidence, as well as articles from each of the coaches. Follow along in print and online.

Grow Your Game Coach Devin Martin

Bonus question: Anyone ever try Rogaine? Or deal with hair loss in any other way?

28

Aug

Ozell Williams is a Tumbling God

Wow. Just Wow.

I feel like power tumbling has become a theme in online videos. Most are impressive, but don’t really stand out from one another. Ozell Williams does!

You can find more info about him on his website here: http://www.ozellwilliams.com/
This man is AMAZING!

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23

Aug

Dream Career

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The following is an exercise I gave to a client of mine recently. She has a “great” job producing television commercials (you have seen her work). Objectively her situation is great. Subjectively she wants to be doing something else. Her heart is not in it. She has other dreams and she has started working with me so that she can pursue them. The problem is that until she quits her advertising job she will have to put an amazing amount of time and energy into producing those TV spots. When in production she works 12 hour days. She is rarely 100% off the clock. Until the time that she makes the Big Leap into her dream job she needs to be very careful to protect her mind, to continue to cultivate her next steps and to keep her sense of hope and possibility alive. In short, she needs to keep dreaming.
What happens if we take that literally? I told her we could make a big impact in less than 5 minutes a day. Here is her exercise:

TAKE BACK YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS

You don’t yet have full control over your schedule. This is the situation. No reason to struggle with it. But, in the process of dealing with it, perhaps you have given up too much of your mind. This dream journaling practice is a subversive way of tapping into your subconscious. It is about shifting gears before you go to sleep (if not much sooner). It is about preventing your day job from cannibalizing your dreams….literally. It is also about planting positive seeds in your unconscious that, believe it or not, will sprout later in your waking and dreaming minds. This will also help to develop your intuition (which is already stronger than you trust)

It should take up about 2 minutes of your time. Seriously. If it takes more than 5 you are doing it wrong. (Caveat: If you get inspired and want to journal that is cool with me 🙂

BEFORE BED: Write “Dream Career” and tomorrows date in your journal. Place the journal next to your bed so you can reach it with as little movement as possible.

1st THING UPON WAKING: Write down the 1st FIVE words that pop into your head.

That’s it.

Worried you’ll forget? Writing on the top of the page each night sets an intention and starts the process. Place your journal on your pillow every morning after you write in it so you have to pick it up just to go to bed.
Do you see what this accomplishes?

  1. Curbs the inertia of your days stresses, most of which stem from a job you want to move away from.
  2. Shifts your mind towards positive thoughts before you go to sleep. You should feel a smile when you write “Dream Career”. This is both a title and a command. Dream about your dream career. You are programming your subconscious. Don’t believe me? Try it.
  3. You are stimulating your unconscious mind to focus on something that is not yet real. You are asking yourself to be creative. Ever wake up with a great idea? Inventors do it all the time. Musicians and artists as well. A lot is happening while you are asleep. Why not harness this potential?
  4. Bracketing your nights (and your days) with positive thoughts. This is good sleep hygiene and a great way to start your day.
  5. Having an impact on your waking consciousness. Ever wake up from a bad dream and have a terrible morning? Ever ask your unconscious to dream about the life you want to create and then walk around in the wake of those dreams all day?

No? Why not try it? Let me know how it goes in the comments below.

This post is from a series called INSIGHTS that are inspired by the work I do with my clients as a Life & Career Coach.

If you are ready to live with more joy, more passion and more purpose than I would love to be of service. Contact me to find out how my Coaching Program can kickstart your journey.

21

Aug

Neil Hilborn – “OCD” Poem

Wow. Just Wow.

The intensity of the energy just barely kept in control makes this performance riveting. Both heartbreaking and uplifting at the same time.

This man is AMAZING!

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16

Aug

You Could Be President When You Grow Up

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Were you born to be a super hero? A Star? A billionaire? Can you be anything you want to be? Did your parents tell you that you could? Have you heard this message from others around you? From movies and TV and maybe your teachers? Can you see how incredibly empowering this can be? How about how damaging it can be? Have we really created a cult of self esteem?

I am from a generation that was told that we are special and that if we put our mind to it we can be anything that we want to be. For some of us this worked out incredibly well. But this also left many feeling insecure and unsuccesful. What if you had the potential to be president, but you ended up being an employee at the bank? What if you dreamed about being a ballerina, but haven’t danced in a few years because you dedicate all of your time to raising 3 kids? Is it harder to feel like a success because of the infinite potential you were led to believe we all have.

And what of your uniqueness? Might this have contributed to your sense that no one understands? That no one gets you? That you will never find your one true love? What if you were raised being told just how wonderful it is that you have so much in common with each and every person on this planet? That we all have the same dreams, the same pains and the same struggles? Might you feel less alone and less like you need to accomplish something great in order to be happy? That is the goal right? To be happy, not to be a star. We want stardom because we think it will make us happy.

This topic surrounds me lately. In the media, in my mind, in my friendships and certainly with my coaching clients. There is only one president and not too many more professional ballerinas or ball players. There are a lot of highly skilled blue-collar workers. I spent the better part of a decade as one myself. The entire time I was both haunted and inspired by a sense that I was intended for greatness, that I was unique and special and that doing what others do couldn’t possibly be good enough. At times it drove me forward. Far more often it left me feeling inadequate and like a failure.

The author Keith Martin-Smith, whose brilliant novel A Heart Blown Open I wrote about earlier,  recently started a kickstarter campaign to help him write a novel about this idea. Check out his rather funny video explaining the topic and contribute. I really want to read this book! (only hours left!!!)

We have all been told that chasing your dreams is at the core of being an American. What we haven’t all been prepared for is the immense work this takes and the simple fact that as long as we keep growing we will always have a future dream. This means we MUST learn to appreciate the present no matter how much more we want. Otherwise happiness will remain elusive. My goal is to strive for more because I love what I have so much that of course I want more. Not because I want to get away from the current reality.

The Atlantic recently published an article about what they call the “magic-feather syndrome” titled “You Can Do Anything: Must Every Kids’ Movie Reinforce the Cult of Self-Esteem?” The article breaks down the childrens movie formula of “outcasts who must overcome the restrictions of their societies or even species to realize their impossible dreams…by believing that their greatest gifts come from within.” The piece goes on to detail how it is not hard work and years and years of effort which, without resilience and determination might resemble failure, that will get you to your goal. In these movies it is simply belief in your own greatness which grants you shortcuts to the big leagues. This is what we are all raised on. We all get what they are trying to accomplish. It feels great to think you can be great. And it is a decent first step. There is much truth in this. But all of the other steps resemble really hard work. This is what we need to be trained to love! How often did your parents praise you for your Charlie Brown like failed attempts? How often were you told that it is only failure if you stop trying, but a learning experience if you take notes and adapt to what the world needs? In an interview with Martin-Smith, Robb Smith (no relation) recently said that when speaking with his children “I would translate…’You can be anything you want’ to ‘You can be be anything the world needs you to be’. I say, ‘You are kind, you are smart, you are important, and you will put love first.’ How different of a message is that? It may sound limiting, but it can be incredibly inspiring once we feel what it is like to be of service to others.

If you saw Ashton Kutcher’s surprisingly great acceptance speech at the Teen Choice Awards recently than one of the three things that you learned is that “opportunity looks a lot like hard work.” He talks about working one menial job after another as he moved from one job to another slightly better job. The point is that he didn’t stroll the streets of Hollywood avoiding day jobs as he waited to be discovered. He worked hard to better his situation constantly and most of the time it wasn’t glamorous.

I don’t actually know much about Ashton’s story, but I love the message he offered. I think that all of our parents who told us to dream big did something incredibly right. They created a space for our dreams to grow and for game changing ideas to emerge. What some of us did not learn was a work ethic and a tolerance and eagerness for things which are not our ultimate dream, but which moves that asymptotic line a bit closer to the ideal. Most of all, few of us learned gratitude, that deep bow to the awe and wonder that is our every breath here on earth no matter how that time is spent. Let your striving be a celebration. Let your dreams create movement that stirs you towards service.

And check out Aston’s speech. It may pleasantly surprise you:
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15

Aug

Integral Salon – Let’s Talk Meditation

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This month at the Integral Salon we will be sitting down in a circle and having an open conversation about meditation led by our own Logan Beaux. As an intensely serious meditator at times and a non-meditator at others, I, for one, am eager for the opportunity to speak frankly about the many benefits and challenges that having a regular meditation practice presents. All are welcome. Please join us. For more info read Logan’s invite below and visit the Meetup page here.

From Logan:

Why is a meditation practice so hard to stick to? Do you ever tell people you meditate even though you rarely if ever actually do it? For that matter, is meditation even “worth it?” What’s so great about it, anyway?
If you’re anything like me, you think about these questions a lot. As curious thinkers and, ideally, doers, who have stepped into integral waters, we encounter plenty of advanced spiritual teachers encouraging us to embrace a sustained spiritual practice.
And I’ll be honest. If I could snap my fingers and instantly be someone who had meditated 2 hours a day for 30 years, I’d probably do it. But it’s the getting from here to there that gives me pause. And I start to think to myself, you know, a ton of people live successful, satisfying, fulfilling, kind lives without meditating. Maybe other things–losing weight, learning to deal with my shadow reactions, making more money, etc.–would be of more use to me when it comes down to it.
That’s how I usually end up justifying it to myself, anyway, haha. And, without pointing any fingers, I know a lot of us well enough to know that many of you have similar stories you tell yourself that keep you from engaging in a sustained meditation practice. Admit it!
Why is that? Why do so many of us supposedly integral people not meditate? Strange, if you think about it, right? For a group of people who embrace a model that gives such high praise to meditation?
I know I’m not alone. Join me. Let’s talk about it. I’d love to hear the stories you tell yourself about why you don’t meditate. I’d also like you to join me in shining a light on this gap between where we are and where we want to be. And if you do consider yourself a serious meditator, we want to hear from you too! Share with us how and why you stick with it.

 

For more info on Integral New York’s Ken Wilber Meetup: http://www.meetup.com/kenwilber-58/

15

Aug

Integral Leadership in Action

I have been involved in the Integral community here in NYC for many years, but last year, while I was off living on a mountain for a year I got to know the Asheville, NC community in well. It was great to see how another sangha has coalesced around Ken Wilber’s work, make new friends and take part in both their discussions and practice group. One of those new friends is Terry Poling, the president of Integral Leadership in Action or ILIA. ILIA puts on an annual conference featuring leaders from around the world who are “dedicated to the facilitation of the dynamically unfolding human condition while compassionately in service to all life.” It’s a great group of people with really boundary pushing ideas and endeavors. Unfortunately I can’t make it this year, but here’s some info in case you want to check it out yourself:

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14

Aug

Eddie Vedder – I Won’t Back Down

For many of us Eddie Vedder gave voice to emotions and existential angst we never could have shared ourselves.
Whatever you think about Pearl Jam’s later albums, you have to recognize the power and raw energy his voice holds. No where is this more true than in his acoustic performances. This version of Tom Petty’s “I Won’t Back Down” is one of my favorites.

This man is AMAZING!

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07

Aug

David Wolfe – You are What you Eat

If you dive off the deep end and decide to take your health into your own hands you have to own every aspect of your diet.
If you explore diets deep enough you will likely end up trying a raw food diet and learning about superfoods. The man I call the world’s leading expert is David Wolfe.

Check out this video of him talking about empowering yourself by taking control of your diet and engaging superhero behavior.

What more can I say.

This man is AMAZING!

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